We just celebrated Father’s Day here in Australia. I have been lucky enough to know two very amazing Dads in my life.
I found myself thinking of what makes an amazing Dad. For me, two people epitomize the “perfect Dad.”
I was lucky to grow up having my Dad with me for most of my life. I have some very fine memories from my childhood. I remember the smell of homemade pizzas made by him flowing through our house in Brisbane. As I grew up, I learned of the many sacrifices he made for our family. He left a lucrative job in Sri Lanka to come to Australia for a better life for his kids. He worked hard as a cleaner holding down two jobs to gain his accountancy qualifications.
He was a hardworking man who always gave to others. When we got married he paid for the wedding even though he did not have the money. An note left for me as we left for our Honeymoon said: “You will always be my little girl, take this money and think nothing of it. Go and have a beautiful dinner somewhere on me.” In the envelope was $1000. The thing is I knew he didn’t have it to give.
When I came home after having my heart broken by my first boyfriend, he checked on me every hour to see how I was as I tossed and turned in my sleep.
He supported me in my music, turning up to some very unsavory pubs and smiling through our performances glowing with pride. It’s funny – my hubby has that same look when our son plays cricket or when our daughter performs.
He danced with me at my debutante ball telling me: “You make me proud to be your Dad” just as my husband did a few months ago with our daughter.
When I was 28 he left us for another place. I watched as he took his last breath, heartbroken because I had lost someone who had made such an impact on me.
Today at age 47 I am happy to say I have someone else who is an amazing Dad in my life – my husband Graham. I remember his face when both our children were born. His look was of pure love.
Our son is always keen to learn and Graham is always keen to teach him. He never played cricket himself but learned the skill just so he could support Jamie in his cricketing journey.
Graham works “for the man” bringing home money to pay for our lives. He never ever whines at not having things for himself, always giving to the kids first. We are struggling, but he always supports me to find ways to pay for things.
He has taught both our kids the art of fixing things, something I know I could not do without.
The best thing my Hubby does is support our kids’ passions. He put himself way out of his comfort zone by learning to play the guitar so he could play with our daughter in her music school concert. He is at every one of Jamie’s cricket games even if it means getting up at 6am after just coming home at 3 from working.
Today as I write this testament to these two very loved men, I realize how lucky I am to have had 2 very awesome Dads in my life.
Happy Father’s Day Graham – our kids adore you.
Happy Father’s Day Dad – I miss you to this day.