I am lucky to say I came across the man in my life at a very early age. Graham and I have been together since I was 18. I am now nearly 46 so we are nearly 30 years on. I often find it funny how many gasps I get when I say that out loud in some of my classes.
28 years is a long time, and a very long time in this day and age.
So as hubby is embarking on his birthday this week, today I sit and pen my recipe for success. (Tongue in cheek of course, but it has worked for us. Mainly this piece is a testament to an amazing man.)
When friends look at Graham and I they are often confused. You see, Graham is the rational part to my irrationality. He is the quiet to my robust. The sensible to my crazy. Mostly he is the calm to my total and utter chaos.
I have learned over the years that often what you don’t realize is that the “gold” is sitting right in front of you.
Many years ago I was going to be famous. I was going to make it big in the industry…and I am embarrassed to say that I had an ego to match that. Crushing hearts was something that I am not proud of. When Graham and I first went out when we were 17, I crushed his heart. I was chasing my dream with a total disregard for him or his feelings.
So here is the first ingredient: suck it up when you are wrong. I soon realized what I had thrown away, sucked it up and begged for forgiveness. (The best thing I ever did!)
The second ingredient is: communication. I admit I over communicate, but we have always talked things through…. even when we didn’t want to.
The next ingredient comes in the form of 2 amazing humans. We created them and they help us make things work. They make it worthwhile to talk things through. We are the family of 4. All my nourishment and re alignment comes from that. Together, Graham and I have created an environment that is built on a solid foundation of love. My kids still love going with us places. As a muso they have had some pretty fantastic experiences – Muse, The Foo Fighters and recently The Living End, to name a few.
The final ingredient is: protection. This comes from a need to protect the partner from harm. I will often go from 0 to 10 on the growling stage if anyone tries to harm hubby.
I am lucky enough to say publicly that not everyone has the life I have. Although we are poor to the point of sausages most nights for dinner, we don’t care because we have each other. I have what everyone is searching for their whole life.
To my Hubby, what can I say, you are my everything. You are the ying to my yang. You make the world such a beautiful place to be. No amount of words could ever tell you how much I love you. Thank you for making me a better person.
Until next time Lovelies, I hope you all find your love bliss.