photo by Jane
Increasingly, I had the courage to reach out. I saw the look of surprised joy on people’s faces when I offered them a genuine compliment, and savoured the moment of radiant connection it made possible.
And then, instead of brushing off the kindnesses that people offered me, I allowed myself to receive them. I smiled graciously when I received a compliment and said thank you instead of saying it was nothing. I accepted gifts and generous offers.
Even if the first few times I did this with a bellyful of butterflies, it was magic.
I saw how people’s eyes lit up when I accepted their kindness instead of denying it.
In my heart there was a sensation of something cracking open.
Now, I’m still practicing. Granting myself the small acts of self-kindness, like a cup of my favourite tea, and the big ones, like owning my dream of becoming a shaman. Taking the opportunities to be kind to others too, instead of turning away.
Realising that true kindness to others is also a kindness to myself. So if I don’t want to do that thing that someone is asking me to, remembering that my no is a kindness to me and them. And it opens space for the yeses too: being there for a friend, finding the perfect gift or making that donation.
I’ve come to realise that far from being a weakness, kindness is powerful. When I stand in it’s fierce sweetness and say yes, I am willing to open my heart, I am stronger than I’ve ever been.
These are the simple questions that help spark my kindness:
What is the smallest, most do-able act of kindness that you can do for yourself today?
What is the biggest?
What is the most do-able kindness you could extend to someone else today?
Much love, Jane.
|Jane of Ardis is an intuitive alchemist + sorceress of stuck. She blogs about radiant soulful living, loves tea, tattoos + Tarot, and is undertaking a shamanic adventure. She is also a cat concierge to two spoilt felines.|