Permission via Osmosis
 | I’m Fabeku Fatunmise. (Hi!) Business awesomizer. Suck exorcist. Punk rock alchemist. I help people turn up the awesome in their business through the magics of sound. In my spare time, I sip sweet Darjeeling, talk to Joey Ramone in my head, and wander the internets in search of the perfect luchador mask. Find me + say hey. That would be fabulous. Site: fabeku.com :: Twitters: @fabeku :: Facebook |
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That totally made me cry. I love FF -- he is my guru :)
This was very moving and so kind of you to share your story. I sent it to my daughter, who at 22, is inspiring others by living her dream. It's not always easy, but it's the right thing to do.
Talk about synchronicity!
I just...as in an hour ago...JUST sat down with myselves (my younger selves--- at 3, at 9, 12, 15, and 19) and gave us all permission to be ourselves. And to be happy.
I'd been thinking of how very different my life could be now if I'd had just a little smidge of permission, if I'd known that I was ok just like I was.
You Fab---your life and what you do, they inspire me.
So thanks for the added permission to be myself in this current incarnation!
<3
Love - not only do I believe you to be dead-on, but I nearly fell out on the wave of love that was emanating from my heart while I listened to you. So glad to be able to receive and share these amazing thoughts with you.
AWESOME! I am actually @ a crossroads-just left a job that I LOVED - but due to circumstances out of my control-life for 40 hours was changing the WHO that I am....so I had to leave-I was hired by another company before I left this one-and was told one week before I was to start that they had to withdraw the offer due to a Budget Cut. So NOW I am unemployed...trying to figure this all out- @ the age of almost 50!
Your story actually helped me alot this morning~making me want to really focus on what will make me happy~
"DO what you LOVE~LOVE what you DO !"
Thank you.
Dearest Fabeku,
This week was your turn to make me feel you message and cry. Thank you so much for opening up and sharing your heart and this powerful message that is an incredible reminder to set the world free by being you and by allowing others to be as they are. I am so grateful to listen to this today and know your father is extremely proud of you wherever he is today. Un abrazo, Bernardo
Love it Fabeku! So sorry that you lost your father so young, but so grateful for your lesson.
Oh, the tears. This was such a beautiful story, Fabeku, sending you so much love!
Fabeku,
You are so right. What a beautiful gift. Much love, Mandy
As someone who did not go to college I appreciate this. So nice to hear your voice and your message. Beautiful!
Loved your story. I'm sure he knows somehow that you are rocking the world and spreading magics everywhere.
I <3 Fabeku.
Fabeku always makes me cry and or laugh. <3 Fabeku!
This is so beautiful! Thank you for sharing. xo
This is so amazing! Thank you for sharing your truth and inspiration!
Permission via Osmosis . . . was brillantly presented . . . so much heart radiates from you . . . and I KNOW your Dad experiences, senses, and celebrates your passionate work and being!
Thank you for this beautiful message and story. Sounds like a lot of people are needing to hear it (myself included). Thank you for being who YOU are and inspiring me and for the osmosis "call" to be no one else except ME. ;)
Oh My Goodness... Im a Huge Fan as of Two minutes ago.. 2011 is so about Me.. Love that you shared that being yourself empowers others to be confident to be their true self... It is sooo muchh hard work to be an actor in your own life.. Its WORK... and the pay probably isnt that much... but, but, but to Dare to Be willing to live a different life.. is so Brave.. and EASY.. So I Thank You Fabeku for this mag peek into your story.. Im off to get the new hair style that I really WANT...HAVE a marlelous Day all...
I feel very unoriginal, not having anything new or different to say than the previous comments but I don't feel I can add anything to what I've already read. The previous comments make me want to say 'ditto, ditto, ditto'.
You are light & love. How much so many of us need permission to just 'be'. Growing up in a "should", "have to", "don't ____ because it will upset ______" life really makes for fearful living, unable to let go and be myself, unable to make choices FOR ME. I'm in a place in my life where I'm so unhappy and I'm here because of choices I made more for others' happiness than for my own.
It's nice to meet you, Fabeku. May you be blessed abundantly, blessings overflowing.
I find it mind blowing sometimes when words appear in front of you at just the perfect moment..to hear what your father said to you and where that took you and your brain is, for me, some sort of validation as a parent. We think, in our parent minds, that recommending further schooling to our kids is the ultimate gift in our teaching of them. But...I admit it, I have been somewhat of a rebel in societal thinking! Its been embedded in my 54 year old brain that making money and obtaining possessions is the road to happiness...well that is until my corporate world came crashing to a halt a few years back. Since that time, intellectually, physically, psychologically and financially, I was forced to take a big bright look at the world from a new and totally foreign perspective. A perspective that has taken me to new ideas, opened new doors, enlightened me to very un mainstream ways of thinking and now I know why the crashing halt came to pass. It was so I could learn a new way of life, share a new way of thinking and support my 19 year old sons quest of adulthood outside of the mainstream. Hearing your words today gave ME permission to be proud of my alternative stance and ultimately enabled ME to breath a great big ole sigh of relief that I did a good thing, and now I know where that new incredible smile came from and why he seems so FREE!!!
Peace Fabeku..you do good, you do REAL good!
I went to college, but honestly, some of the wisest folks I have met in my life didn't. What a wonderful thing to hear as I toil away raising a 5 yr old and 3 yr old. I hope that I can be as wise as FF's father when the time comes. I want them both to be true. That is so much more important than a big fat bank account and a fancy piece of paper on the wall.
The timing of this is so spot on! I'm being career-coached by @WhenIGroUpCoach and last week I hit a snag when I realized that I needed far more permission/freedom in my life than I originally thought I did, and I worried about how I could possibly build a business (for lack of a "funner" term) if I never forced myself to do anything when I didn't feel like doing it. A little tendonitis later (the thought pattern behind tendonitis is living in "shoulds"), I realized that I just need to integrate the exploration of freedom and permission and going with the grain into my business of authenticity/integrity/alchemy/joy. Thanks for confirming that I can actually live the life I want to *and* make it okay for others to do the same... all in one fell swoop! By osmosis!
I love this. Thanks so much for the wonderful thoughts. My son just graduated from high school and is choosing not to go to college. My message to him was to rock his passion (music) and not worry about anything else. I truly believe if he stays true to himself, he will get what he needs. I think a lot of "grown-ups" spend their lives trying to figure this out. If my kid can get it sooner than later, I know he will be happy & successful. (And success is not measured by a college education.) I try my best to lead by example-or give permission through osmosis as you so eloquently articulated it. I am a writer and a jazz singer. Although I am still figuring out many of the fiscal pieces of my vocation(s), I am leading a truly authentic life. Again, thanks for the post & thanks Amanda, for having Fabeku contribute. Anyone with Joey Ramone in his head is OK by me! Big love.
YES! I'd say more, but it's ridiculously tricky to applaud like a crazy person and type at the same time. Big love to you, my friend. This is why you are The Faboo. xo
What a great story & very timely for me right now too. It is shame that this sort of insight is not taught or encouraged enough in the school system. Thanks :)
Amen! Amen! Amen! Beautiful video. Thank you for giving me permission.
So often the "authorities" in our world teach conformity because it's safe, it controls the masses and you don't have to think. Thank you for this poignant reminder that holding space and giving permission to be oneself is SOOO important.
I find that often I am one of those people who "holds space" for others to begin to explore who they are. I am not sure when or why I do this other than I think I find it amazingly satisfying to watch someone grow and bloom into something spectacular.
Awesome. Thanks for the reminder to live without permission. but to spread the love and inspiration through osmosis.
Oh, Fabeku. I love you and I love your Dad like crazy! The courage he must have mustered to tell you that - and for you to have heard it and NOW LOOK AT YOU!!!
You are pure sunshine, my friend.
xoxo.n
Awesome message--perfect for the start of the work week for me.
As a cosmetology teacher I give myself permisson to be my true self and there fore give my students the same permisson
Amazing story. This is a special day for me because today I decided to give myself permission to be me. And since that moment, wherever I go I get reinforcement that tis is the best thing for me. So now I'm in tears of happiness. I'm sending my love and sunshine to you! You're the best!
So this is what I needed to hear. You are amazing. Thank you :]
Sweetness. Totally glad to hear it, Dyamond.
Permission! Reinforcement! Yes!
p.s. Big thanks for the love + sunshine.
The sweet contagion of permission. Love it!
Thanks, Nona. I've been thinking about the courage part a lot. I didn't grok what a huge thing that was for my dad at the time. But, ohmygawd, was it ever. Huge + beautiful.
Totally welcome. Glad it was helpful.
I also think a lot of people with really good intentions try to nudge us in the usual directions because they want good things for us.
So the intention is good. But the idea maybe a little (or a lot) off.
And you're totally right about the goodness + awesome of blooming. So deeply cool.
Big thanks, fabulous Darrah! Glad it had some mojo for you.
Wouldn't it be awesome if it was? If people were encouraged to find their own groove + just totally rock it. Ahh. What a different world this would be. Fortunately we can all choose to teach by example. And I kind of love that.
Applause? You're the sweetness. Thanks, dear friend. XO
That's huge, Katy! Talk about courage + permission + beauty!
What a gigantic gift to give your son. And I swear this kind of permission makes it so much easier for someone to do what they love.
When they don't have to fight against resistance and static from other people, it makes it so much easier to soar.
p.s. Just took a listen to some of your music. LOVE!
You're full of smartness.
I'm a huge fan of going with the grain. I think it's really hard to sustain real success trying to go any other way.
We can find some short terms gains by rolling with the shoulds. But the biggest magic + biggest successes are always fed by moving in the direction that feels right.
That feels like hugely good news to me. :)
Sounds like you've already got the wisdom thing down. You get it. So they'll get it. And that's awesome.
And the good news is that people can still have pretty full bank accounts even if they decide to walk their own road.
There's something kind of beautiful about that. Not just because of the money. But because of the potential.
Isn't it wild how these big crashing-downesses happen? And how they can lead to totally-unexpected-but-ultimately good places?
Big ups to you for being able to find the mojo in the ack. A lot of people don't.
And not only did you find it, but you translated it into something awesome for your son. That seriously rocks.
You've added a lot. And I appreciate it.
And, yeah, the fearful living thing is so hard. Like this vine that slowly chokes the awesome out of us. (Even though it never actually goes away.)
I'm really sorry to hear about the hard.
If it helps - even a little - I've been in some pretty dark places myself. Things have an amazing way of turning around.
Not that that makes the current hard any less hard. But hopefully it adds a little hope to the equation.
Thumbs up for new hairstyles + more you-ness!
Thanks for the kindness.
p.s. Your comment makes me want to shout a great big go you!
Totally welcome, Rhonda.
I'm glad there was something useful here. Thanks for saying so.
Thanks, Kay.
Big, big thanks.
Sure thing!
Thanks for reading + replying. Really grateful.
Thanks, Christina! Totally appreciated.
Thanks, Gwyn.
Totally grateful for the support + kindness.
Ditto!
Thanks, Julie. I think about him every time I bang a drum or gong a gong. There's a lot of sweetness there, really.
Thanks, Celina!
Really glad it was helpful for you.
I used to be kind of embarrassed about the no college thing. But that's just because I thought I'd be homeless under a bridge somewhere because I followed my thing.
Thankfully that's so totally not true. It's really sweet to find success on your own terms.
How lovely to hear your voice and see your face. Bless your father for the gift he gave - and bless you for receiving it. It took a lot of courage to take in what he had to give. You're both heroes in my book.
And... I've always been just me. Just me is really glad to know just you. Yay!
Thanks, Mandy!
Thank you, Jenn. Glad the beautifulness was clear. That was my hope.
Kind of amazing how we learn the biggest things in our life, isn't it? What a wild + beautiful + messy + fabulous dance.
The beautiful message you shared was part of what inspired me to share this. More permission by osmosis in action! So big thanks to you, Bernardo. For what you shared. And for your kindness here. Totally grateful. Set the world free... Yesyesyes.
What a tricksy situation.
Thumbs up for looking at where the happiness is for you. I've got all digits crossed that this comes together in the best possible way for you.
I'm glad there's something in what I said that's helpful for you. Gently pointing some good thoughts your direction.
Wave of love.
What an awesome thing to say. Thanks, you. Really grateful.
I wish all of us had this permission from jump street.
And I wish everyone around us had been able to give us this permission. Because they would've received it, too.
When that permission is missing, there's a long line of pain there.
It feels like an extraordinary act of grace that we're able to find that permission later.
One of those big treasures in life that liberates + heals + awesomizes. All at the same time.
Thumbs up to radical permission to be you, in all of your unique flavor of fabulous.
Thanks, Kim. I hope it's helpful for your daughter.
And how awesome is it that, at 22, she's living her dream + inspiring people? LOVE!
And this:
"It's not always easy, but it's the right thing to do."
I couldn't possibly agree more.
Thanks, you. Big, big love (and good chocolate) back atcha.
Thanks, Julie. I think about him every single time I pick up a drum or a dong or a singing bowl. There's a real sweetness to that.
Thanks, Claudia.
For me, it took a lot of time to really grok what he said. I didn't get it at the time. But when I did, it was deeply + permanently life altering.
And ditto on the gladness.
Hi Fabeku! It was great to actually see and hear you speak. I've been a fan of yours since the Crystal Spirits days. Anyways, kindness... giving people permission to be their authentic selves is a huge act of kindness. For me it's getting easier with age. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Apparently, that was just what I needed to hear today. As I listened, I felt my shoulders lower an inch and my breath become more regular and deeper! Wow. This is my first encounter with you and I'm so glad I had it. Looking forward to more.
I'm thrilled to have discovered the Kind Kindred posts, and I am grateful for what Fabeku has shared here. Wowza!!!
fabeku - your story hit home....for so many reasons. thank you for sharing! must agree, you are FABOO!
Awesome message!
Thanks, Laure!
Sweetness. Glad it had some mojo for you. Thanks for saying so + for the added niceness. Totally appreciated.
Doesn't this place rock, Andrea? So full of goodness. Thanks for the kind comment.
Right on, Rita. That shoulders-lowering-breath-deepening thing is always a good sign.
Some how I got to this site, to hear your message! WOW! I recently had a conversation with my mentor about really doing what I love. She's doing what she loves and I was telling her how scared I am of what my parents would think if I really just went and did what I love....
Thanks for the encouragement... you put it all together for me! =)
Great message! So happy that you are following your dreams! I can't imagine how proud your dad is of you!
Thank you!
Natalie
Wow! Thanks for sharing this. I am approaching a birthday... last year to be in the 50's!!! I can barely believe I am going to be that age!!! I have been deciding what is important and who am still.... after all these years. Thanks, with tears in my eyes, for your words.
LOVED this!!! thank you for putting it out there... I will have to share with others. Thank you Fabeku!
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