Press play to listen to this post (it’s gorgeous!):
Listen, what I want to tell you is this.
It is not kind to force your soul into a religion that does not love you back.
It does not matter that it was the faith of your fathers. It does not matter if it nurtured you for many, many years. It does not even matter if you made promises to it somewhere along the way. If the religion of your past is bruising your soul in the present, you are not doing yourself a kindness by staying there.
If you are in love with your current faith incarnation;
If you are supported and understood by your religious community;
If your faith is serving you well—
you don’t need to read this.
Here is a kiss for you as you go on your way. (Kisses, sweet friend.)
If you are hard-pressed to speak your truth in the place where you are supposed to find God;
If you have to be silent in what was supposed to be your sanctuary,
If you are hiding your true beliefs in order to belong—
then come with me.
Come with me and be kind to the little baby soul that lies within you, waiting, waiting for something good to get born.
You can find a spirituality that fits. You can create a set of beliefs that you are able to say out loud, without cringing—to anyone anywhere—because they are so deeply 100% yours. You can gather a tribe that will allow you to stand in your truth—a tribe who will not nod and “hmmm” at you in apparent support, while inwardly worrying that you are losing your religion. You can find withmates who will journey with you as you move through the questions.
This kind of re-creation will take imagination. It will take experiments, and laughing at your mis-steps. It will take saying hard goodbyes. It will mean taking a leap over the chasm and holding on to nothing but hope while you wait to see if land with a roll and a giggle on the soft green grass of the other side.
If your religion is a voice in your head telling you that you are too fallen to be worthy;
If you hear on endless repeat, the message that your beliefs, your abilities, your efforts towards goodness are not enough, are never enough:
If the bedrock of your self-understanding is that you are from birth, wrong—
This is not kind. This does not serve you well. For if your faith is not kind to your soul, how can you in turn to be kind to this world? And the world needs you. You—full of kindness.
It is not indulgent to create a right-fit faith. It is not a rebellious to want spiritual practices that don’t leave bruises. Choosing to be kind to your soul is not sinful, or selfish. It is a saving grace – for you, and for those around you.
Come with me my friend, into a new kind of spirituality. It’s time to be kind to your soul.
|Once upon a time Rachelle Mee-Chapman was an ordained evangelical minister. Now she creates customized spiritual practices for heretics, agnostics, and other creative souls. You can find out about her upcoming courses at Magpie Girl, or join her in Flock, an online soulcare community for women.|