photo by Jenny Ingalls Nelson
I rarely watch the news. It's filled with so much hate and war, and it just upsets me, so I choose to not expose myself to it. Hate does not stop hate, and I don't kid myself to think that any war is actually an attempt to stop hate, but what about the war we fight with ourselves?
The war that starts when we wake up and sometimes keeps us from falling asleep at night.
The war that goes something like this:
- I have too much to do
- I'll never get it all done
- I look terrible
- I messed that up again
- I suck at this
- I'll never be enough
This is the war we wage against ourselves. Every. Damn. Day.
Has it ever helped? Has the hate every actually made any of us a better person? Has it ever made us cease any of those things we hate? Not anyone I've met (or been!).
Hate simply creates more hate. It makes hate OK. It makes it easier to flip off the person who cuts us off in traffic. It makes it easier to gossip about a coworker. It makes it harder to choose love.
Yes, I said choose. Love is a conscious choice. Every. Single. Minute.
Want really stop hate? Try choosing love. I know we're never going to stop all the war and hate in the world, but what if we can stop it within ourselves? What if we can make our little corner of the world a conscious manifestation of love?
This is my goal every day, and trust me, it takes conscious effort. Much of the time, I don't succeed, but when I do, it's a game changer. When I catch myself waging a war against myself or anyone else, I stop. I take a breath, and I remind myself to choose love. That's my universal rule.
Thanks for being on the journey with me.