Hello Lovely Souls!
This week in the “Detox your self-talk” series we are looking at starting the process of switching up and healing our negative self-talk. Last week we started the process of noticing our self-talk. What things came up for you? Take that list and see how you can turn those statements around into more empowered self-talk! See my examples below!
Let’s take a few negative common words and phrases and look at how we can swap them into something on the more empowering and even positive side. Now the “Empowered Responses” could be more positive in some instances however I get how it can seem like too much of a jump to go from what we say now to the affirmations. However I am also giving some ideas for Affirmations if you want to take this process a little further.
Here are some common phrases and words I hear or have even said to and about myself!
There is the “Powerless response” (what many of us are probably saying now), the Empowered response (what we are replacing the powerless response with) and there are affirmations (plus a few tips at the end of this post).
Any of these sound or feel familiar?
Powerless response: I can’t afford it.
Empowered response: I choose not to spend my money that way. (I know this one can be sticky, but think about it. Some of the things we wish we could afford we could get if we didn’t do things like pay rent and bills!) It’s still a choice though right?
Affirmation: All my needs are currently met (with ease).
Powerless Response: “I am so stupid I can’t believe I did that.”
Empowered Response: I did not make a mindful choice or that was not the best way to do/handle that but I can learn from it.
Affirmation: I do my best at the time for every situation I am part of. I make choices that support the life I am creating. (The life I want to create.)
Powerless response: I am (too/so) fat
Empowered response: At this moment I am not comfortable in my own skin, my body feels out of alignment right now or at this weight.
Affirmation: My body is a miracle, Thank You body for all you do that I don’t even realize.
Powerless words (when used in some instances): I can’t, I never, (These are often used to declare defeat before we even start!)
Empowered Response: I will, I am, I do not yet know how, one day
Affirmation: I have what I need right now, I am enough. I am open to learning.
I know there are many more examples, and if I have not given one that resonates with you and you would like some support or ideas on switching it around please contact me, via comments here or my site.
Overall what I want to encourage us all to do is to just bring some awareness to our self-talk. Where are you putting yourself down? Future tripping? Flat out insulting yourself?
If at this point the affirmations don't feel right, then start with tweaking what you can into more empowered statements.
And if starting to do that doesn’t feel right, then simply start with noticing and when you do: Say Delete or Cancel when you catch yourself saying something negative or unkind about yourself. You might even ask a friend or family member to say the same thing when they hear you talking negative about yourself! In fact I suggest this last step at each stage of this process!
I hope this minute, this hour, this day, this week you will start to be a little kinder to your beautiful self.
Here is to living Inspired, Creative and Empowered
|Hi I am Heather Shafer and I am a certified Dream Coach, and Holistic Life Coach, and Inspirationalist! I believe that connecting to our deepest and most creative Selves is critical to living our best, most powerful, lives. My purpose in life is to learn to express myself fully and authentically, and to teach and inspire others to do the same. My website features inspiring stories, tips and ideas to help you live an Inspired, Creative and Empowered life.|